People need people. People need to be understood, to be loved, to be comforted and to make a difference based on their capacity and contribution. When they are recognized, it becomes a way that his moral is boost and lets him become inspired towards what he is passionate about and maybe shares his experiences to others. Appreciation and belongingness are basic human needs and can invoke his will to value his friendship towards the other people around.
Often times we experience ostracism. When ostracism is experienced by a person, it affects a person on different levels. And once being deprived, it impairs his basic human needs, his self esteem and belongingness including his meaningful existence. Anxiety level is dramatically raised and can possibly cause depression.
But how does it feel like when you are ostracized? In my own experience, it cuts like a knife and is similar to death of loved ones. Basically it is a social death. You become helpless and it feels like you are not worthy of any attention at all. Although it can possibly spur your spiritual growth from this experience, its process is difficult since a person is affected emotionally and physically. It is hard to let go although it may take some time to fully recover and heal from this situation. It distracts your mind to do the things that you want to do, it’s hard to concentrate but a person needs to overcome the process and survive from this predicament.
Being ostracized, although it’s a negative thing can bring a person to another level. When he recovers, it may let him understand why it happened and develop his compassion, humility, love and understanding to those people around, especially to some people who have been on his shoes.
Healing requires when a person is ostracized. It requires having someone to talk to like your friends, network of people, and in a social place. In that way, it will make positive changes to your self